The WAY we talk to our kids has a huge impact

The WAY we talk to our kids has a huge impact on their learning and ability to listen to us.

We are constantly modelling to our kids how to act and behave and the way we talk to them fits right into this category. The way we speak to them and those around us is showing them how we want them to speak back to us.

Parent communication

We’ve found that there are generally three different ways that parents communicate with their children:

1. The first one is in an aggressive way. These parents yell a lot, put their kids down and use attacking words. Their children respond in many different ways, mainly by playing up a lot more, feeling fearful, yelling back and ignoring their parents’ constant orders.

2. The second form of communication commonly seen is a passive form. These parents mutter soft, cautious words and tones to their kids finding that they run riot and walk all over them. Unfortunately, these parents are so passive that sometimes when they are pushed to their limits, they suddenly turn their communication into an aggressive tone.

3. Last, but not least, the third way parents can communicate with their kids is in an assertive way. This is what I (as a teacher, school principal, trainer at a women’s university) found to be by far the most effective way to communicate with kids - our future adults and partners - at all levels. An assertive way of communicating is firm, consistent, clear, positive, warm, confident. Communicating with kids in an assertive way is a real skill yet it shows your kids that mum and dad know what they’re going on about and to listen.

We all want to raise an emotionally intelligent child. It may not be your natural style because you were not raised that way; it may be difficult for you because of the examples around you. However, you can learn and begin to practice from the minute you walk out of Beryl’s course

So what’s stopping you ? Reserve your place with Beryl Comar today.

The goals of this online course are to enable participants to:

• Understand where their styles of communication came from

• Learn practical, effective methods of communication

• Know how words affect children and their feelings

• Examine methods typically used to get children to behave

• Understand why these methods are self defeating and lower self esteem

• Learn methods for engaging cooperation

• End manipulation of parents, and children

• Offer alternative ways to look at punishment

• Begin to give responsibility to children

• Help children problem solve

• Encourage autonomy without rebellion in children

• Free themselves and their children

• Reinforce all the above with the SleepTalkME System

Beryl Comar

About the Author

With two master’s degrees in Education from USA and Applied Linguistics from UK, Beryl has a background as a teacher in the UK and Tanzania, and as a headteacher in UAE. She was teacher trainer for Oxford University Press and supervisor for Higher Colleges of Technology in Dubai then Zayed University in their start up year before setting up her consultancy and training business. Beryl was the first to bring NLP and Hypnotherapy to the Middle East and has trained hundreds in the region to continue this work.

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